What does cochlear implant got to do with love?

Most of us know children are too young to know what it is like to have something permanent. Since they're too young to know what's like to have something permanent, they're also too young to make a decision for something permanent.

Don't get me wrong, cochlear implant is good for some people but I don't believe it should be given to a child who's incapable of fully understanding. Most parents fear that their child with hearing loss will not fit into the world. They fears that the child would feel loneliness not be able to communicate with their classmate. And kids do sometime make fun of being deaf. They wouldn't want their child to feel that way.

That's why they have special accommodations for deaf children all over the states. Deaf are not the only children that feel lonely and they can still write back and forth and use physical gesture to communicate. Not only that but they have interpreters that can hear and sign for deaf students and teachers.

I have seen deaf people have friends that can hear. So being deaf is not an excuse for being lonely. The problem still remains about put cochlear implant into the child's head. Putting cochlear implant make more limitation than being deaf or without one. For example, anyone with CI (cochlear implant) is limited to some sports. They shouldn't be doing soccer, boxing, martial arts (with partners), playgrounds, trampolines, or anything that involve getting your head hit without a helmet. It also can be disadvantage around special environment when they're close to neon lights or radar detector. It can cause a loud buzzing sound to them. So they got to stay away from Las Vegas.

So why take something away from them that they would love to try or love to do? I have tons of friends that enjoyed being deaf. I, myself enjoy having hearing loss because it got me to have a lifetime friends and unforgettable people that share the same background as me. Once you put that CI in your child it's in there for life. I believe it's best to wait until they're old enough to fully understand the differences.

"Deaf people can do anything but hear." - I King Jordan

I used to think mothers, fathers, or siblings are the only people that can share with unconditional love

I used to think mothers, fathers, or siblings are the only people that can share with unconditional love. But now I believe you can give it to anyone you want to, because it doesn’t limit to whom you can share it with. That’s one thing I think is great about about love. I have love for a sister-like friend without conditional love. We grew up together since elementary. We went to separate schools but we manage to keep in touch through email and instant messages. Yeah we do have our ups and downs moment in the past but that didn’t stop the love we shared. So therefore I am going to love her no matter what she does. I was taught to love my family without any conditioning love; not just to my immediate family but also grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, and in-laws. But not other families are fortunate to share this wonderful kind of pure love. You hear about parents abusing children every day. That is not the kind of love that anyone should give to their kids. You also hear a lot about siblings rivalries to the extreme. Other families could be taught that you should love your immediate family and care less about the rest. I am fortunate and blessed I didn’t have to go through that. But you know what; most Christians think “Only God can give unconditional love”. I would agree so but according to John 15:12 it speaks for something else.

Notice I didn’t mention unconditional love for boyfriends, girlfriends, husbands, or wives. That’s because I wouldn’t recommend any couples to do so because that’s like giving a green card saying “Honey, you can go head and cheat on me as many times as you want to and I am still going to love you the same way”. Don’t get me wrong it’s sometime possible to give it to anyone who’s in love. Sometime it’s heart breaking to see what people actually go through with unbreakable love. It’s too painful for me to go through all the pains and suffering to especially love someone who is not fully committed in the relationship. I want some to trust and show the love that I would like to feel. So for whomever I fall in love with, we will have to have some certain conditions to go through in order to make relationship last.

Should we force our child to be deaf or have cochlear implants?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-YN5Fdz1En0&annotation_id=annotation_871327&feature=iv

In this link you will see a video about a deaf guy tell you a story. Make sure you have the subtitle on to understand his story. For those who don't know about cochlear implants:

Cochlear implants is a small electronic device that help a person sense a sound. This is for a person who is either profoundly deaf or severely hard of hearing. It could be harmful to a person who isn't profoundly deaf or severely hard of hearing.The implant consists of an external portion that sits behind the ear and a second portion that is surgically placed under the skin. Here's a picture.

For more information you can go to http://www.fda.gov/MedicalDevices/ProductsandMedicalProcedures/ImplantsandProsthetics/CochlearImplants/default.htm

Conditional love and Unconditional love

Conditional love is a sole love that shares a changing or limited love from one to another. Conditional love can show feeling that is possible to change one moment to the next moment. It is not necessary a steady love where emotions of love stay the same. It may have reason to love more or less. It can change from a certain events or even doubtful reasons to lead with more or lesser love than before. Sometime there is not a given reason to love more or less. As I mentioned earlier, conditional love is also a limited type of love. At any given period of time or moment, one can stop their love with or no reason at all. This kind of love can remain the same but could not last forever. Limited conditional love does not always crease to love, but can also choose their preferences toward another one. For example, one can have a strong desire or need for look, race, belief, or even culture. This love excluded all the possibilities for another looks, races, beliefs, or cultures that is different from one’s preferences. One can also feel jealously or hate within this conditional love.

One good thing about conditional love, it can change into unconditional love. However, unconditional love cannot change into conditional love. You can grow love more and more conditionally but not with unconditional love. You can have more and more reasons to love with unconditional love but the love is still the same. Most people called this unconditional love the truest and most pure kind of love because it never change and it last forever. This love does not judge one’s look, race, belief, or culture. Instead, this love looked beyond that. Unconditional love is the kind of love that does not need to be work on or build up more on love. It has no ups or downs on love, regardless of whatever happen between any periods of time.

[As being as strong as death itself..it cannot be killed by time or disaster; it cannot be bought ... not even by the richest king! It must be accepted as a gift from God and then shared within the guidelines that God provides: striving to make your love a reflection of the perfect love that comes from God himself. There are so many types of love but the truest, purest,unconditional, most faithful love is that love of God and that is "agape love".-- Diane Norvell ]

ASL

Everywhere I go meeting with deaf people, we always get interrupted by people that wanted to know signs. Since they don't have the time to go into courses to learn the American Sign Language, they can learn free sign language on http://commtechlab.msu.edu/Sites/aslweb/browser.htm

Good guys don't always get the girl

Come to realize good guys get more rejections than bad guys. For those who realized that, may often questioned themselves shouldn't it be the other way around? Others may want to know why is that or is it true? How many time have you seen a nerdy guy walk up to a beautiful girl and get an instant rejection? Or have you seen a good looking couple end up in a bad break up? So why do bad guys get the girls before good guys do? Here's the problem.

Bad boys tend to know the girls weakness. They would talk to this girl and try to finding their weakness and tend to abuse their weakness sooner or later. They will do whatever it take to get the girl but end up messing up the relationship. For an example, they would make a girl laugh, or smile to get their attention. The girls weakness is to believe that guy is good enough to make her smile. But it can sometime mean not good enough to make it last. That would be the girls weakness that guy can abuse it on the later run. They do whatever they can to get you but stop doing it in the long run.

Good guys usually make a bad impression. They could be shy, nervous, or even clumsy. Sadly for girls, 1st bad impression are usual the last impression. A shy guy walked up to a girl, suddenly he stuttered and begin to blushed. The girls friends could be laughing at him thinking that was funny. Or a guy tripped on the steps trying to talk to the girl. They could automatically get rejection because of that. Solutions to both problem?

Girls play hard to get with all of guys. The one that keep coming to you and trying is usually the one that want you the most. Good guys.. keep going, keep practicing, and don't give up. Bad guys, get lost. Seriously.